The Career Clinic Blog

Nothing like a book called Living Well at One Hundred to make you think, "Better do some financial planning." Many of Dr. Darlene McCord's suggestions will ring familiar, and on a recent edition of The Career Clinic she said stress is contagious. "If you're a manager you set the mood for the whole office," she points out. "People look for cues about how to feel from you."

It reminded me how often that plays out. For better or worse, default settings or no, we catch moods from each other as easily as we do colds.

I first became aware of this in college. I was at a concert with my boyfriend, and couldn't believe Billy Joel was going to sing "Summer, Highland Falls." I almost burst into tears at the sudden delight, not realizing Steve was taking this in. I could feel his eyes on me, then. He smiled, so I smiled. Later he told me he wished he had a picture of my expression at that moment. "Priceless," he said. And then, "So innocent." Now I realize what the expression was. I wasn't about to decide it was a smile-worthy moment until he gave me the okay.

I aspire to what Dr. Alex Lickerman described as indestructible happiness, but I cop to what I've heard put this way: "You're only as happy as the least happy person you're living with." So you do the best you can by yourself--and your sweethearts--and keep a can of Lysol handy.